Awakening to the Dance: A Journey to Wholeness
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“When you are joyous, look deeply into your heart and you shall find it is only that which has given you sorrow that is giving you joy. When you are sorrowful, look again into your heart, and you shall see that in truth you are weeping for that which has been your delight.” Khalil Gibran
How do you handle disappointment? Does it plunge you into depression or are you able to learn from it and still expect the best from life?
Yesterday I sat in the doctor’s office nervously waiting for him to appear. The silence calmed me a bit as did the smile from my fiancé who was there with me. The doctor came in smiling after having seen the x-rays of the ankle I had broken. “A good sign,” I thought, waiting for him to speak.
We Share Joy Simply By Expressing It
His words were exactly what I wanted to hear. The boot was booted, and I could bear weight again. We were all smiling and I was so happy I forgot to ask the questions I should have asked. He could tell from the smile on my face that he needed to add, “But no jumping or running.” And he laughed joyfully with me.
I may have been seated but I was jumping for joy, and so were the nurse and my fiancé. It was contagious. But that is often the way joy is—it radiates and infects those around us, and before they know it, they are dancing the dance with us.
It’s the small things on this journey that sometimes give the greatest joy—being able to climb up six stairs without falling, being able to sleep with my foot free of the heavy boot, my fiancé bringing me a vase of Gerber daisies, having two hours to sit and talk with my best friend. Even the ice cream I frequently get seemed tastier.
We Experience Sadness Only When We Lose What We Value
When we are forced to focus, we may actually realize that we become sad only when we lose or feel we will lose what we care about. For an independent active person like me, not being able to walk for six weeks was huge. For someone who is sedentary, it might be just an inconvenience. For someone who follows a particular football team, the loss of a game is upsetting. Not being a fan, I wouldn’t even notice.
I value freedom, and I need a lot of it in terms of making my own decisions, following my spiritual path, and writing. None of these were affected by the restrictions I have had recently, but the physical restriction weighed me down so much that I began to get depressed about growing older, and I worried about the time when I would be permanently restricted.
Even When Negative Experiences Occur, We Can Still Expect the Best From Life
At that point, I stopped and thought, “Wait a minute. I never think like this. I always assume I’ll be active until the day I die.” I took a deep breath, did a little meditation, and let the fear go. My sense of well-being returned. What happens, happens, but I’ll always take the best care of myself that I can, so there is no reason to dwell on the worst that could happen. It’s not unreasonable for me to expect all will be well even when, once in a while, negative things happen.
Because I was a dancer for many years, just being able to walk feels like an incredible freedom. I feel like I’m dancing just because I can look other adults in the eye now instead of seeing the world from a knee-level perspective. Everyone is my dancing partner and I’m feeling footloose and fancy free.
© 2014 Georganne Spruce ZQT4PQ5ZN7F5
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“Resilience is all about being able to overcome the unexpected. Sustainability is about survival. The goal of resilience is to thrive.” Jamais Cascio
The problem with an accident is that there is no warning and afterwards the shock overtakes us for protection. When reality finally sets in, it is hard not to analyze how it happened and why.
I’ve replayed many times that moment before I fell on the hike a couple of weeks ago. There was a moment I hesitated before I stepped onto the spot where I fell. If only I had hesitated a little longer and decided not to take that step.
We Cannot Change the Past
But we can’t change the past. What’s done is done. I have a broken ankle. I won’t be able to walk for several weeks, so what am I going to do in the meantime. I’ve done “angry,” “blaming self for being foolish” and “you should have warned me.” So now it’s time to move on and make something good out of this.
We Can Make Something Good Out Of Negative Experiences
It’s forcing me to rest more, which is good. I kept saying I needed to make the time to meditate – well, now I have it. I have the time to rest and think. And I have to be more creative. How will we take that trip we planned to celebrate a special time in a relative’s life? How will I teach the class I was supposed to teach?
I wrote the first three paragraphs two weeks ago, and during the last weekend in April, I taught “How to Make Your Story Come Alive” at the Blue Ridge Bookfest in my wheel chair. Somehow I had managed to finish preparing the workshop between severe coughing bouts (oh yeah, I developed a bad allergic reaction to the oak tassels falling in my yard) and insomnia.
Despite my limited movement, the class was very responsive and asked good questions and I enjoyed teaching despite the fact that I am used to moving around and writing on the white board. It was a different experience, but I do prefer to be on my feet.
I also discovered that my fiancé is totally dedicated to my well-being. He has become my home health care professional 24 hours a day and I feel extremely well cared for. I don’t have to call on strangers as I did several years ago when I broke my elbow, nor do I have to go to a rehab facility where I am treated as senile although at the time I was there, I was fully in charge of my faculties.
We Have to Adapt to the Changes
Over all, things have been going well despite my fiancé’s car dying the day we headed out for the bookfest. Fortunately, mine was working well and we were able to reload the car quickly and arrive on time. That same week the toaster oven I use to cook everything died. Oh yes, and after living here ten years, for the first time, I’ve been called to jury duty—a couple of weeks before my wedding.
Of course this is all happening in the middle of our making final plans for our wedding. Well, at least it hasn’t been boring. Who knows what will happen next. I’m at the laughing stage now, and can say, “We’ll deal with it.”
Most of the time, when the unexpected and not so pleasant things occur in life, all we can do is adapt. No matter how hard we plan, life will create obstacles, and hopefully we can circumvent or overcome them, accepting that reality and perhaps learning from them.
We Can Learn Important Lessons From Negative Experiences
What have I learned from this experience? That when I’m on a slippery slope, I need to weigh the options more carefully than usual. My first concern must be my own safety regardless of what anyone else is doing. I need to balance my daring and passion with thought and wisdom. I need to slow down and be sure my next step is on safe ground.
© 2014 Georganne Spruce ZQT4PQ5ZN7F5
“That inner voice has both gentleness and clarity. So to get to authenticity, you really keep going down to the bone, to the honesty, and the inevitability of something.” Meredith Monk
I am sometimes shocked by the extent to which people will go in order to please others at the expense of destroying who they really are. I watched an hour of the Academy Awards the other night and was absolutely shocked when I saw Kim Novak who was presenting an award. I kept staring at her because I could not find one detail about her face that looked the way she used to look. In addition, parts of her face looked frozen.
The next day on Facebook, I saw a picture of Goldie Hawn and had the same reaction. I stared for a long time and could see only hints of the face she used to have. I’ve always thought of Goldie as being very genuine, more so than most Hollywood actresses, and I would never have dreamed she would do this to herself.
Aging Can Be Empowering
I understand the competition for roles in Hollywood is fierce, but the truth is that as I age I enjoy seeing actresses who have aged naturally. I can relate to them more. Judy Dench is a wonderful example. She has wrinkles and gray hair, but this seems to work to her advantage because she is frequently cast in roles with depth that tap the wisdom of her years rather than focus on her appearance. She has lived long enough to know how to go deeper, and I can always count on her performances to have substance.
Unfortunately, it isn’t just the entertainment industry that is obsessed with youth. Most of the people who have plastic surgery for cosmetic purposes are women, but ten percent of the people in the United States who have plastic surgery are men. We are so obsessed with appearance that many feel they need to look younger in order to succeed in their careers even when appearance has nothing to do with performance.
Changing Our Appearance to Gain Confidence Is Superficial
In researching this topic, I came across the story of a young woman who had plastic surgery to change her body shape to a sexier one and was delighted with the attention she received and how it enhanced her career opportunities. All this positive attention from others made her more confident, but I wonder how long that confidence will last when she starts aging and drooping. Will she simply turn to surgery again or will she realize it’s time to heal her insecurity.
Fear Is the Basis of All Insecurity
When we live authentically, we accept who we. We accept our flat chests, large noses, big ears or gray hair. We don’t let the external define us. We want to change our appearance only if we feel we aren’t good enough or that we must please others in some way. Hiding beneath those insecurities is the fear that we are inadequate or that we will be rejected, so the root of the problem is our fear, not our appearance.
When we allow these fears to persist, we may not say no when we need to, so we continue to live with dysfunctional relationships that only reinforce our fears. We are more afraid of the unknown than we are of remaining miserable and hiding our true selves. When we live in fear, we never know joy, for it comes from deep within and comes from a deep feeling of freedom, unfettered by concerns for what others think of us. We never know peace because we are always looking around us to see if we have pleased another.
To Be Our True Selves, We Must Get In Touch With Our Core
Relying on anything external to define us is risky. The core of our being lies deep within us, so that the only way to truly know ourselves is to “keep going down to the bone” where we will find the inner voice that will guide us through all life’s experiences. We must be willing to let go of society’s expectations in order to discover what we want for our lives, and when it is different from what others want for us, we must have the courage to follow our inner guidance and let go of what will no longer serve us.
Authenticity Expresses What Is Unique About Us
One of the reasons I chose the quote by Meredith Monk is because I saw her perform in the 1970s. It was clear from the moment her modern dance company began the performance that this would be unlike anything I had ever seen. The dance was performed with the dancers singing, much like an opera. She created a landscape of movement, sound, and lighting that was exceptional. Clearly she expressed herself in an authentic way and she inspired me to do the same.
What I produced wasn’t always so good; sometimes it was silly; sometimes it didn’t work. But after seeing her work, I knew I had to experiment. I had to have the courage to find out what I could do and that was a greater motivation than the fear of failing. It is difficult to have courage if our personas are not genuine. In that case, our real selves are hidden beneath many layers that we must peel away. As we let go of what is artificial about our lives, what is authentic will emerge. As we face our fears and release them, knowing we are strong enough to survive whatever change occurs, what and who we no longer need will drop away, and our real selves will emerge.
Being Authentic Gives Us Freedom
This is why having a meditation or contemplative practice is so important. These practices clear away the mental debris so that we can hear the inner voice that will guide us. Until we become who we truly are, we may not even see the true gifts life has given us because they do not fit into the inauthentic life we created, but these may be gifts the world deeply needs. Finding love and joy and the freedom to express ourselves is a gift, not only to ourselves, but to the other people as well, and we can only do that when we are authentic. © 2014 Georganne Spruce ZQT4PQ5ZN7F5
“Love and compassion are necessities, not luxuries. Without them humanity can’t survive.” Dalai Lama
Do you have compassion for those who are suffering in the world or only for the people you personally know? Do you have compassion for yourself?
Only Fear Separates Us From Others
We are living in a world deeply troubled by fear and separation, so how do we live with that day by day? It is so easy to believe that our thoughts and actions have no consequence, but they do.
We are all energy—our actions, words, and thoughts are energy that we put out into the world. If what we offer is loving and compassionate, that energy will help heal those who live in fear. After all, fear is the only thing that separates us.
Differences Can Teach Us What We Need To Learn
I am very grateful that, in my life, I have lived in unique environments where I was always rather different from those who were born and raised there. Because of this, I’ve learned to look beyond what is different in others to see what it is we have in common. Even the differences have been valuable because they taught me new things about life and made me stretch and learn to adjust to a new environment.
I was fortunate to travel to West Africa on a Fulbright-Hays Travel Abroad Grant in the 1990s. I was living in New Orleans, a place where the culture was deeply influenced by West African culture. I saw the roots of its music, food, and the commonality of emphasis on family and community.
As for living in New Orleans itself, I learned to let go, have fun, and take life less seriously. Those were lessons I needed to learn at that point in life. The rest of my immediate family lived there, and it was a joy to be close to family after years of living far away.
During the time I lived in Nebraska, I learned that at a distance the landscape looked bare to a mountain-loving person like me, but in reality, there was a much more subtle beauty to that land. You just had to pay more attention to see it. The same was true of the people who tended to be not very emotionally expressive.
We Need To Look Beyond Political and Cultural Differences
I’ve also lived in New Mexico where the art and Native-American relationship to the land touched me deeply. And I’ve lived in Washington, DC and its political climate. But in each case, I learned something new that helped me understand that we are all different and yet all alike. Our humanity binds us together despite the cultural or political differences, and it is our humanity that matters.
Compassion Heals Us
The Dalai Lama reminds us that we will not survive without love and compassion. When we love our neighbor, we care about him or her. We are concerned for his struggles. The definition of compassion that I like the most is “a feeling of deep sympathy and sorrow for another who is stricken by misfortune, accompanied by a strong desire to alleviate the suffering.” So compassion is not just about our feelings, it is also about what we do.
When we express compassion, we help others to heal by sharing our love with them. We can bridge gaps caused by religious or political differences by focusing on our human needs. By expressing this aspect of our humanity, we are saying we are all One, and that is what matters the most. Healing ourselves and our society can only happen when we put aside the fears that separate us.
Fear Separates Us
On the national and international level, it seems that all the focus is on what separates us, and at the source of that is one thing—fear. A spiritual teacher of mine also mentioned in the 1980s that unless we learn to release our fears, we will destroy ourselves. But she also said that 1986 was a turning point when 6% of the population reached an awareness level that would allow us to heal our lives and survive as a species.
As wars rage, especially in the Middle East, her words are haunting because the need to control others has taken over our ability to relate to those who are different. We are only concerned with being the person or country that has power over others. But in most of these wars, a group that has been oppressed is fighting for freedom, and in some instances what they are doing may be the only way a correction can be made at this time.
We Must Release Our Fears
One of the reasons, I teach workshops on how to release your fear is that releasing our fears is the only way to free us from the confines of insecurity. It is only when we feel insecure that we need to control others. When we feel secure within ourselves, it is natural to love and feel compassion and we reach out to others who are in need. When we express this positive energy, we begin to change our world, person by person.
We may not be able to stop the international wars, but we can stop the wars in our own lives by learning to let go of the fears that create problems. Letting go of those fears helps free us to love ourselves and others, and when love is in our hearts, we do feel sympathy for others’ difficulties and will choose to reach out to help in any way we can.
By Practicing Compassion, We Become Peacemakers
In this world we have allowed power and fear to control life. What if we chose love and compassion instead? We could save not only our own lives, but the world as well. We have to be the heroes in our own journeys.
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© 2014 Georganne Spruce ZQT4PQ5ZN7F5
“True, we love life, not because we are used to living, but because we are used to loving. There is always some madness in love, but there is always some reason in madness.” Petrarch
Do you love life? Or do you find it a burden filled with negative experiences? What do you do to create a life you can love?
There was a time in my life when nothing I planned seemed to work out. Each project came to an end before it was completed. Each relationship, which in the beginning held such promise, involved obstacles that we couldn’t surmount. I often thought, “If I just had that one true love, life would be a joy. It would be worth living.”
I think that this belief was connected to my mother’s unhappiness. She and my father were opposites, and he was a rather emotionally withdraw person, but she was outgoing and easily showed her warmth and love. But living with a man who couldn’t show his love in the way she needed him to wore her down. She once commented that the reason my grandmother was so happy was because she had always had someone to love her. My grandfather was always a very expressive, loving person.
Love Includes Respect
For years, I tried to find that perfect one. Once I was married and at another time I was in a long distance relationship for eight years. I really tried, but there was always some respect for me that was missing. My ex-husband thought that my passion for modern dance was a childish interest that I would eventually grow tired of. The other man wanted a relationship where he only had to spend ten percent of his time with me and could do whatever he wanted, regardless of how his choices affected me.
A Spiritual Journey Connects Us to the Divine
Fortunately, as various aspects of my physical life fell apart or refused to materialize, I gave some attention to my spiritual journey. Some of the things I learned as I explored this divine connection helped me see that I did not need to stay attached to the negative feelings created when things didn’t work out the way I planned. I began to sense that I could feel happy about life even when its events didn’t please me.
Positive Energy Helps Us Manifest What We Want
Perhaps pursuing a career in dance was sheer madness, but dancing fed my life with constant joy, just as writing or walking in the forest does now. I began to understand that what I had planned didn’t work out because, sometimes, something better was around the corner. When I decided to complete my memoir and publish it, I had reached the point in my journey where I knew how to use positive energy to manifest what I wanted.
To Be Loved, We Must Love Life
What I had learned over those years was that if I wanted love in my life, I had to love life. I had to always find a moment, a thought, an experience, or a friendship that was uplifting and I had to embrace it with gratitude. Even when things didn’t work out, I could at least feel good that I had the courage to try. I learned how to turn the negative into a learning experience. Instead of seeing myself as a failure, I chose to applaud myself for the attempt.
Loving life is a decision we make. It is easy when we have all we need, are well-loved, and are doing what we love to do. My own life is so much easier now than it used to be. With some retirement money, I can afford to write, and with a loving partner, it is so much easier to feel and express love in the world, but long before either of these things happened, I had awakened to loving life. It was only after I truly learned to love life that my perfect partner appeared, drawn to me by what I wrote in my memoir and blog.
Loving Life Draws More Love to Us
When we learn to love life every day and be grateful for the good in it, we will draw more love to us. So how do we do this? Learning to meditate will teach us to be in the moment and to go deeper into our emotions to discover what lies at our core and the cause of any fears that are limiting us. Learning to release our psychological fears will free our minds of the blocks the fear creates and allow truly helpful information to come true.
We Love More Easily When We Are Balanced
We also need to learn techniques that balance our energy, such as chakra balancing, Reiki, or Emotional Freedom Technique. These techniques also help heal the body as well as the mind, for true balance includes both. Balancing our energy brings us to a more centered place emotionally so that we can more easily see our wisest choices.
Knowing how to work with our bodies and minds empowers us, and feeling more empowered makes it easier for us to love ourselves. In order to love our lives, we must love ourselves, and thinking positively about the chances we take. Seeing value even in our failures reminds us we are basically worthwhile and good. To love life, we must believe in ourselves.
We Must Love Ourselves In Order To Truly Love Others and Life
No matter how many people love us, if we don’t love ourselves, we are lost. Loving ourselves is the most powerful aspect of life. My mother didn’t love herself; she thought that was selfish. She thought she had value only if she helped others. I rebelled against that because I saw how unhappy she was. At first, my rebellion was very selfish, but as time went by and I discovered that loving and taking care of myself made me a more confident person, I also began to understand how to give to others from a place of love, not obligation.
Loving the sheer wonder of life and reveling in our spiritual connection to it makes life truly worth living. It connects us with All That Is. Please comment.
© 2014 Georganne Spruce ZQT4PQ5ZN7F5
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“The two hardest tests on the spiritual road are the patience to wait for the right moment and the courage not to be disappointed with what we encounter.” Paulo Coelho
How patient are you when things don’t go your way? Are you often disappointed about life or do you find some pleasure in each day?
Lately, it seems that dealing with the mundane in life has become unnecessarily difficult and somewhat bizarre. I spent an hour or more trying to discover why my phone would do nothing but “search” when it had worked fine the day before and the battery was charged. Finally I unplugged the battery to read the numbers on it, thinking that maybe I needed a new one, and when I reconnected it, it worked just fine.
Then there was a problem with the water filter. In order to have filtered water like reverse osmosis, I stack one water filtration dispenser on top of another so that the water from the top dispenser will drip through the second filter. In the last month, the top dispenser has toppled onto the floor twice when a friend of mine walked into the kitchen. At 6 foot 3 inches, he’s a big guy and his steps create a vibration, but he’s been walking into my kitchen frequently for months. Why is this happening now? The second time it happened, the filter shattered.
Lessons May Come From Negative Experiences
Ralph Waldo Emerson said, “The invariable mark of wisdom is to see the miraculous in the common.” Each moment of each day offers us the opportunity to learn. I’ve learned from experience that when a series of events, mundane or serious, occur I need to pay attention. I need to calm down, go with the flow, and take time to trust that the Universe is trying to tell me something.
In addition to going inside for spiritual guidance, I also look at astrology or numerology to see if any messages resonate. My number for this month is a 36/9 and part of the message is that any losses or endings will free me for the new cycle I am about to enter and that any losses I encounter are only those things I do not need.
Not Being Centered Creates Unnecessary Difficulty
When the phone incident occurred, I was already frustrated about a series of troublesome phone calls with my insurance company, and I wasn’t in a positive frame of mind. I was so disappointed that another problem had arisen that I lacked the patience to solve the problem easily by doing the most obvious thing, checking the battery connection. Instead, I assumed it was more complicated.
Remaining Positive Requires Courage
Paolo Coelho reminds us to have courage and not be disappointed when we encounter difficulties. We have to trust that there is value in these life experiences. When the negative experiences are more serious matters, the challenge to have courage is so much greater. My challenges are nothing compared to the challenge my friend who has cancer faces. She is nearing the end but insists on trying not to take drugs to “numb out.” That’s real courage!
Years ago when I had chronic fatigue syndrome, I had to change my life style in order to heal naturally. Having to go to bed early and be very strict about what I ate irritated friends and others close to me. The medical profession had not yet accepted this diagnosis as a real one and many people just thought I was being dramatic about my needs. Losing friends and not being respected made my life more difficult. It took courage for me to remain devoted to what I knew was best for me.
Loss May Lead Us To Something Better
In the case of the cracked filter, I was surprised by what happened, but I wasn’t too upset. Maybe the incident was telling me it was time to install a water filter in my water system. As it turned out, the friend whose vibration caused the filter to crash had an extra filter that can be easily installed in my house.
Learning “not to be disappointed by what we encounter” when we experience mundane disappointments prepares us to face the really difficult moments. Staying calm and going with the flow gives us the patience “to wait for the right moment.” We often see this in a relationship when we need to discuss a touchy subject with a partner or a manager at work. If we take the time to consider when and what to say and release our anger or frustration first, we are more likely to communicate in a way so that the other person will hear us.
To Trust Life, We Must Trust Ourselves
We can trust life when we learn to trust ourselves. We create our lives with our thoughts, emotions, and actions, and the more we learn about managing them in a spiritual and loving way, the more likely we are to create positive experiences. In addition to the patience and courage, Coelho suggests, developing a practice of gratitude helps to shift us away from expecting the worst of a situation we don’t like.
Focusing on Gratitude Is A Positive Practice
Gratitude reminds us of all the good in our lives. Even when it’s hard to see the good, it is important to hunt for it and look for a lesson in each experience. My experience with the phone reminded me that I need to focus on the simplicity of life and assume the solution to a problem is simple unless it truly does become more complex. I am thankful for that reminder.
The experience with the water filter offered a better alternative to my “slippery slope” solution and reminded me that when one thing stops working, it is often because there is something better in the future. When we are grateful for the good we have and truly believe that basically life is good, despite the challenges, we are more likely to find our spiritual path filled with light.
© 2014 Georganne Spruce ZQT4PQ5ZN7F5
“We are shaped by our thoughts; we become what we think. When the mind is pure, joy follows like a shadow that never leaves.” Buddha
How do you feel about the New Year? Do you feel anxious or at peace? What creates this feeling that you have? If you don’t like it, what do you do to change it?
After two days of below freezing temperatures and some snow that intensified the light coming into my dining room to the point of almost blinding me, I’m reveling in the easy blend of light and shadow coming through the trees into the room where I work. It is soft and balanced.
Begin the Year With Gratitude
I am beginning this year with much gratitude. I do not live where the worst of the winter storms are occurring although our temperatures have been the lowest since the 1800s. I have a warm house, plenty of food, and love. I am blessed.
I am also grateful for the time I was able to spend with my brother and his family, especially the time with my grand nieces and grand nephew, three of who are two years old, and one who is four. There were also three dogs in attendance on Christmas. It was wild and lovely. Just being with them was a joy. Their excitement was contagious.
How we Think Changes Our Vibration
But after the hustle and bustle of the holidays, a profound quiet and a bit of depression enveloped me. It was time to rebalance and contemplate my plans for the New Year. During the holidays, the joy I felt was created primarily by external circumstances, but now, living hundreds of miles from the rest of my family, I have had to return to my own resources. The joy I felt has slipped away.
As I thought about what I needed to do in the New Year, especially with my writing, I first saw all the things I had hoped to accomplish last year and didn’t. Well, what was done, was done. I reminded myself that I could only change the future, not the past. On the other hand, the new relationship in my life has been a great joy and given me the kind of companionship I haven’t had for years. As I began to focus on the good things in my life, I began to feel my vibration rise.
As my vibration rose, a joy began to well up inside. I was following my greatest passion by writing and just thinking about continuing to do that brought me joy. When I began to clean up my lists of things to do and develop a plan for this year, I let go of the self-judgment that had depressed me and I began to feel more peaceful.
What We Think Affects How We Feel
And that is how it works. What we think determines how we feel. As the Buddha points out, joy comes from a pure heart. So how do we create a pure heart? I know that meditation has always helped or writing in my journal, exploring the meaning behind the events or ideas moving through my life. Doing this regularly clears the emotional and mental clutter that distracts me from a natural peace and joy.
Still, life is full of challenges. Before the holidays, I had signed up for a prescription drug plan. This week I talked to them about covering two custom compounded drugs I take. After two and a half hours of talking with several people who were unable to grasp that one drug consists of a combination of two drugs, they sent a fax to my doctor for approval with the drugs inaccurately named and spelled. I had spelled slowly the names of the drugs several times for two people, but they did not record them accurately. This experience tested my patience to the limit. It seemed ridiculous. I kept taking a lot of deep breaths, reminding myself that getting upset would not help the situation.
At the end of the day, the problem with the insurance company was still not resolved, but at least I had been able to constantly adjust my mind and center myself throughout the experience. I was able to move on to other things and relax that evening knowing that I did all I could do.
Return to Your Spiritual Center for Guidance
Many of our challenges appear because we are living in a time of great change. The political and economic structures we have depended upon are changing. Remaining flexible and centered is the most effective way of dealing with change. Oneness tells us that when our lives seem to “veer off course” and we feel we are “without a compass,” “All that remains, are the clues that begin to emerge from within” (p. 110).
In order to recognize those clues, we must return to our spiritual center and listen to our inner guidance where all answers reside. We must clear the mind of judgment and resistance and reside in peace. As we continue this journey, the way will not always be clear or kind, but it can lead us to a better place. How we experience each event is largely our choice, and when things happen that we don’t like, it is our choice how much we invest in positive or negative thinking about them.
Developing a pure heart by changing our thinking will always take us to a better place where joy becomes a part of who we are.
© 2014 Georganne Spruce ZQT4PQ5ZN7F5
“For last year’s words belong to last year’s language
And next year’s words await another voice.
And to make an end is to make a beginning.”
T. S. Eliot
Are you pleased with the direction your life took in 2013? Do you have any regrets about last year or any hopes for change for the New Year? Will this year be a new beginning in some way?
A peace always falls over me at the beginning of a new year. It’s like stepping through a portal that will provide me with new experiences and broaden my awareness. I know that each year I grow—sometimes from positive experiences and sometimes from negative ones. If I haven’t been pleased with the year, I can choose to let go of my displeasure and reorganize and rethink my life so that in this New Year I will be more of the person I want to be.
Much of what I experienced in 2013 was good. I did book signings, workshops, and sold books. I made new friends. I went on many wonderful hikes. Most important of all, I began a deeply meaningful relationship that I never expected would happen at this time in my life.
But that was last year, and I wonder what voice will emerge from within me and through my writing for this year. I’ve already started putting together a book of poetry, and within my own poems are many voices. I have changed.
There is the voice of isolation that speaks through my poems about winter in Nebraska years ago. There is voice of new found strength and recovery from a previously failed relationship. There is the joy and exhilaration of connecting with nature and the flight of birds, and the mystical, spiritual experiences of deeply relating with others.
Although many voices may appear in my writing, they all emerge from my core, and the journey continues. Last year was last year with its surprises and lessons. It has ended, but now there is a new year and I have to reflect on what I want it to be.
I don’t make resolutions, but I do reflect on some of the things I hope will be a part of next year. I begin to create some plans to make those desires manifest. I envision what succeeding to get what I desire will feel like, and I begin to feel those goals will be reached even when I have no idea of the mechanics that will make them happen.
So I begin to create a year of new beginnings, always with joy at the center, and the ability to accept whatever the New Year brings. I tingle with excitement over what may be possible as I continue to dance this dance of life. And above all, I commit to choreographing a New Year filled with love, peace, and joy.
May this be a joyful year for you all!
© 2014 Georganne Spruce ZQT4PQ5ZN7F5
“The purpose of life is to live it, to taste experience to the utmost, to reach out eagerly and without fear for newer and richer experience.” Eleanor Roosevelt
Do you often try out new activities or ideas? Or do you feel the most content when things remain the same? Have you ever learned anything important from doing something new?
Unlike many people who have one vocation, marriage, or passion in life, I’ve always been interested in many things. During the time I was a dancer, I was also a teacher, receptionist, employment counselor, and lawyer’s assistant, doing whatever I needed to do to pay the rent. Of course, teaching has been my primary profession, but I taught English, dance, drama, and exceptional children.
Curiosity Can Motivate Exploration
After being somewhat of a recluse as a child because of illnesses, as an adult I was always hungry for new experiences. After I started to really explore life, I couldn’t stop. Each experience created a curiosity that motivated me to try something else that was new. At times, I was fearful, but I chose not to let that stop me. As a result, I have had a full and rich life.
When we open our minds, many new opportunities present themselves. We can expand our lives simply by being present in these situations. Do we take the time to listen when someone expresses an idea with which we disagree? It’s possible that understanding that person’s beliefs may expand our thinking so that we are better able to understand people who don’t share our beliefs.
Release Fear of Differences
Many of us are afraid of people who are different from us. This cultural disconnect creates many problems that don’t need to exist. If we could put aside our fear of what is different and embrace what is similar among us, we could create bridges instead of wars.
Experiencing Other Cultures Expands Our Understanding
In 1994, I was privileged to travel and study in West Africa. It was one of the richest experiences of my life because, for a time, I was immersed in a culture very different from the one where I grew up. It touched me deeply because I saw that it was possible to live a life where art and spirituality were integrated into daily life and where family was of supreme importance. I also saw the ways that stereotypes disregarded the depth and beauty of the people whose lives were rich in ways many westerners’ lives were not.
On the daily level, the trip also taught me to appreciate the regularity with which my phone worked, hot water always flowed from the faucet, and a prescription was filled from a pharmacy whenever I needed it. These were not sure things in Africa. But most of all, the trip taught me not to accept others’ concepts of people or ideas without doing my own research.
New Experiences Can Deepen Our Spiritual Lives
Because I lived in New Orleans when I traveled to Africa, learning about the historical origins of the city helped me value aspects of the culture I had not appreciated before, such as the origins of Voodoo as a religion, the call and response aspect of Mardi Gras Indian music, and the source of many New Orleans dishes.
My way of dealing with life changed after this trip. I explored my spiritual beliefs more deeply and worked to integrate them into my daily life, believing that this would be a path to greater wholeness, and it was.
Adventures Broaden Our Understanding
When we see life as an adventure, we welcome what is unknown or unfamiliar. Adventure is about going where we have never gone before. (Yes, I was a “Star Trek” fan.) I loved where I grew up in the hills of Arkansas, but when we moved to Tulsa, I learned about the Cherokee’s Trail of Tears and the plight of Native Americans elsewhere. When we moved to Memphis in the early 1960s, I experienced the civil rights movement. In every place I lived, I learned and grew in significant ways because each place was different.
The Inner Journey Is As Important As the Outer Journey
When I hear people say they’re bored, I’m always puzzled. There are so many things we can do to make life interesting if we are willing to make the effort. Are we willing to take on this responsibility? There are books to read, movies to see, and conversations to initiate. And in this culture, we often think we have to do something all the time. Perhaps we need to learn that just being may be the most interesting thing we can do.
It is not just the outer adventure that can excite us, but the inner one as well. What led me to a point where I felt my life and spirituality were integrated and I felt whole was a spiritual journey where I explored several spiritual practices and stayed open to see whatever showed up as a possible teacher. The journey inward has been as rich and expansive as the outer one.
Adventures Expand Our Human Awareness
Adventures are what we make them. To one person, eating Indian food may be an adventure. To another, living in India is an adventure. But what they all have in common is our willingness to try something new, to open a door that wasn’t open before, and peek in or step into a new experience. Even if it isn’t a particularly pleasant experience, we learn something we didn’t know before and that expands our lives because that’s why we’re here—to learn all we can about being human.
© 2013 Georganne Spruce ZQT4PQ5ZN7F5